How To Set People Free (Without Being A Pastor)

Excerpt from: "The Gospel Of The Kingdom"

Tom Bedford • Senior Pastor
July 19, 2026

8 Minute Read

Jesus gave His twelve disciples authority and sent them out to heal the sick and to deliver people from demonic power, from illness, and from every kind of affliction (Matthew 10). That same mission belongs to you. The qualification for it is not a title or a platform. Jesus said that being born of the Spirit is like the wind: "you hear the sound of it, but you do not know where it came from or where it is going" (John 3:8). You cannot always explain it. But when you are born of the Spirit, you are already in it.

You Do Not Have to Be a Pastor, You Just Have to Be Born Again

I have been a Christian for forty-four years, and I will tell you the truth about how it worked for me. When I first got born again, I was a lot wilder and a lot less refined than I am now. God did not teach me to live this way through great visions. I never took a trip to the third heaven and came back with a revelation to go transform the world.

Instead, He taught me through something much smaller and much simpler. Sometimes I would just be somewhere, and the Lord would say, "Look at that person." And there was this little prompting on the inside. I call it the nudge. If you have walked with God for any length of time, you know exactly what I am talking about.

The First Thing: Learn to Follow the Nudge

Here is how the nudge would work. The Lord would say, "Look at that person," and I would look. Then He would say it again. And I would think, "They are going to think I am weird." He would say, "Look at them again." Then would come the harder part: "Go pray for them." And more than once I answered back, "I do not want to do that. They did not ask me to pray for them." He would simply say, "I asked you to pray for them."

Have you ever been in a moment like that, where the nudge was working and you did not want it to? Where you got clammy and sweaty and stirred up inside? I have paced a Walmart parking lot, praying quietly to work up my faith, just to walk up to a stranger and say hello. So this is the first thing I want to give you. Learn to follow the nudge. You do not have to manufacture it. You do not have to create it. You just have to follow it.

What Does It Mean to Be Led by the Holy Spirit?

Being led by the Spirit is not as strange or as dramatic as people make it sound. It does not always come as some overwhelming, otherworldly experience. Most of the time, the nudge is simply compassion, pointed. You look at someone, and your heart goes out to them. You see the pain they are in, and something inside you says, "I see you."

When you notice a person who is in distress, harassed and hurting like a sheep with no shepherd, and your heart breaks for them, that is the nudge too (Matthew 9:36). This is not about showing up to entertain yourself or to have a spiritual moment in public. It is about love. Love is greater than prophecy, and it is greater than knowledge (1 Corinthians 13). When you are moved by compassion, God is all about that.

Now, sometimes the Spirit does get your attention in more physical ways, and He will use whatever teaches you to pay attention. Early in my walk, whenever the Lord wanted me to notice someone, my cheeks would flush blood red. I would be sitting at a table in a restaurant, not saying a word, and my wife would look at me and say, "Something is going to happen." I would ask, "What do you mean?" She would say, "Your face is red," and then she would start scanning the room, wondering who it was. Other times my hands would begin to burn hot, and I would know something was about to happen. God was patiently teaching me, "This is how you know I am here." But even with all of that, most of the time it is still the compassion that points the way.

The Second Thing: Five Words That Open Every Door

Once compassion has pointed you toward someone, here is the second thing, and it could not be simpler. It is five words: "Can I pray for you?" I could tell you stories all day long that started with that one question. Who is going to be offended enough to say no? A few people might, and for them you will need a different approach, but most people respond with, "Please."

I was recently at a client's house. I have a side business, and this man has been my client for ten years. He is a lovely guy, and he does not know the Lord. Every time I am there, he offers me marijuana, even though he knows I am a pastor. He does not even realize I would not do that, and honestly, I love him. So I was at his house, and I asked him, "Can I pray for you?" He said, "I do not believe in a sky God, but please pray." So I laid my hands on him and prayed for him, and he started crying. He told me, "Thank God you are my friend. Thank God you love me. You have been such a good friend to me." A grown man, standing there in tears.

He did not come to Jesus in that moment. But I understood something. That one question, "Can I pray for you?" opened a conversation I was not expecting, and that conversation will lead to more conversations. Sometimes those five words are the doorway that everything else crosses over. So just try it out.

You Are Not Depending on Your Own Ability

When these two things work together, when the nudge points you and then you ask, that is the moment where everything becomes possible. And here is the freeing part: your dependency does not rest on how good you are at any of this. It rests on the eternal Spirit who lives inside of you.

Even if you have not been a Christian very long, the Holy Spirit has been here a long time. He has loved these people with an everlasting love; He has loved them a long time (Jeremiah 31:3). The one living inside of you already knows exactly what to do. That is why Jesus told His disciples not to worry about what they would say, because it would not be them speaking but the Spirit of their Father speaking in them (Matthew 10:19-20). You do not have to work up the perfect words. When the nudge hits, the Spirit of your Father is the one prompting you to go and offer those five words. You yield, you ask, and He shows you what to do.

Where to Go From Here

Imagine what would happen if ordinary believers were simply released into their cities to follow the nudge. You do not even have to create it. You just have to follow it. When you see someone in distress, harassed and hurting, and compassion points you toward them, go. Offer a heart of love, and ask, "Can I pray for you?"

Love has a look. Love has a sound. Love has a way about it, and when it is in you, other people can see it, even people you have never met. So the next time your heart goes out to a stranger, do not talk yourself out of it. Follow the nudge, offer those five words, and watch what He does. The door swings wide, and the Holy Spirit is right there.

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August 9, 2026 • 7 Minute Read

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But here's what matters more: we may not have it all figured out, but what we do want is to know God and have Him know us. He'll get us through. He'll get us there. He'll get you there. There's something about building it together that helps the foundation become solid. I watched a group of children put on a play once, and what I loved about it was that they were working with each other. One child loved another child enough to come help them in their calamity and bring them along. We're going to need each other for there to be a foundation that has power. It can't just be you. Your kids need to see other people living it too. Where Kids Really Learn to Worship When you see a room full of children dancing, singing, and rejoicing, where do you think they actually learned that? Do you think they learned it from the worship leader? They learned it from mom and dad. Because when you're driving down the road facing a trial, they can see you in the rearview mirror with tears running down your face, saying, God, You will be here. Your presence will lead us and Your power will save us. What's going on, dad? You okay? Yeah, I'm good. Just praying. What are you praying about? All things. Just praying. They know when you need God. They can feel it in the house, they can feel it in their hearts, and they know it. How to Pass Your Faith to Your Children When they see you choosing God in the hard moments, acting like a man of God and a woman of God, you are sowing into a foundation of rock and teaching them that they can know God too. What you're going to find out on the other side of all of it is that He knew us. So tell your children stories and testimonies, and help build their foundation of faith. Then go live stories and testimonies, so they see a foundation of faith actually being lived out in front of them. That's how it gets passed down, through what your children watch you know.

Tom Bedford

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You see the pain they are in, and something inside you says, "I see you." When you notice a person who is in distress, harassed and hurting like a sheep with no shepherd, and your heart breaks for them, that is the nudge too (Matthew 9:36). This is not about showing up to entertain yourself or to have a spiritual moment in public. It is about love. Love is greater than prophecy, and it is greater than knowledge (1 Corinthians 13). When you are moved by compassion, God is all about that. Now, sometimes the Spirit does get your attention in more physical ways, and He will use whatever teaches you to pay attention. Early in my walk, whenever the Lord wanted me to notice someone, my cheeks would flush blood red. I would be sitting at a table in a restaurant, not saying a word, and my wife would look at me and say, "Something is going to happen." I would ask, "What do you mean?" She would say, "Your face is red," and then she would start scanning the room, wondering who it was. Other times my hands would begin to burn hot, and I would know something was about to happen. God was patiently teaching me, "This is how you know I am here." But even with all of that, most of the time it is still the compassion that points the way. The Second Thing: Five Words That Open Every Door Once compassion has pointed you toward someone, here is the second thing, and it could not be simpler. It is five words: "Can I pray for you?" I could tell you stories all day long that started with that one question. Who is going to be offended enough to say no? A few people might, and for them you will need a different approach, but most people respond with, "Please." I was recently at a client's house. I have a side business, and this man has been my client for ten years. He is a lovely guy, and he does not know the Lord. Every time I am there, he offers me marijuana, even though he knows I am a pastor. He does not even realize I would not do that, and honestly, I love him. So I was at his house, and I asked him, "Can I pray for you?" He said, "I do not believe in a sky God, but please pray." So I laid my hands on him and prayed for him, and he started crying. He told me, "Thank God you are my friend. Thank God you love me. You have been such a good friend to me." A grown man, standing there in tears. He did not come to Jesus in that moment. But I understood something. That one question, "Can I pray for you?" opened a conversation I was not expecting, and that conversation will lead to more conversations. Sometimes those five words are the doorway that everything else crosses over. So just try it out. You Are Not Depending on Your Own Ability When these two things work together, when the nudge points you and then you ask, that is the moment where everything becomes possible. And here is the freeing part: your dependency does not rest on how good you are at any of this. It rests on the eternal Spirit who lives inside of you. Even if you have not been a Christian very long, the Holy Spirit has been here a long time. He has loved these people with an everlasting love; He has loved them a long time (Jeremiah 31:3). The one living inside of you already knows exactly what to do. That is why Jesus told His disciples not to worry about what they would say, because it would not be them speaking but the Spirit of their Father speaking in them (Matthew 10:19-20). You do not have to work up the perfect words. When the nudge hits, the Spirit of your Father is the one prompting you to go and offer those five words. You yield, you ask, and He shows you what to do. Where to Go From Here Imagine what would happen if ordinary believers were simply released into their cities to follow the nudge. You do not even have to create it. You just have to follow it. When you see someone in distress, harassed and hurting, and compassion points you toward them, go. Offer a heart of love, and ask, "Can I pray for you?" Love has a look. Love has a sound. Love has a way about it, and when it is in you, other people can see it, even people you have never met. So the next time your heart goes out to a stranger, do not talk yourself out of it. Follow the nudge, offer those five words, and watch what He does. The door swings wide, and the Holy Spirit is right there.

Tom Bedford

Senior Pastor